It might be easier sometimes to weald a power of attorney so I can make all the money decisions myself

Things like selling the house, paying Matt’s bills, managing his money

Its hard for him to do those things now

We have had to make some big decisions on selling the house in Virginia

I choose the hard way, I choose to involve him in the decision making

It is really hard, most of the time, to take that path

In marriage, financial stuff can the the reason for its demise

So this is a hard thing normally

Attempting to do this with Uncle Lewy in the house is exponentially more difficult

We had a big decision this week to make

We received some new intel on activity in the local market that out house is in

All of the intel came as we were driving to meet up with Eric in Marin. They planned to hike and spend a few hours together.

After the intel was shared, while we were driving, I went over everything with Matt

I wrestled with Uncle Lewy

Then I decided to double down, as we needed to make this decision with reasonable swiftness, and loaded Eric with all the details of what we just learned, details leading into this

What huge help Eric was! Uncle Lewy seems to be much more manageable if we gang up on him! Maybe Uncle Lewy is intimidated by Eric (do I have a secret weapon now?)

When we reconvened later that day, Matt had his answer of what he felt comfortable with

Now I can move forward

Its definitely not this easy most of the time

Decisions that need to be made can be out there in discussion mode for weeks, months

Those are the times leveraging the power of a power of attorney would make it a million times easier, for me

I choose to love Matt in a harder way

I choose to love him by involving him as long as possible in decision making, even if its a much harder path for me.